The Struggles of a Bachelor

“Ae dil hai mushkil jeena yahan, zara hatke zara bachke, yeh hai Bombay meri jaan”. What perfect lines said by Rafi Sahab, capturing one’s expectations from Bombay (Mumbai). But the biggest problem that a bachelor faces when he steps in to the city of Mumbai is the problem of finding an appropriate and budget friendly house where he can live sans any restrictions. We have been hearing this all through our life that “for achieving something in life, you don’t need to ask for it, you have to earn it”. Same case goes for a bachelor, who has just shifted to the city and is here to succeed his goals.

Whenever a bachelor begins his ‘hunt’ for a perfect house where-in he can stay with all the amenities, he has to undergo a tremendous and tedious task of overcoming the psychological barriers put forth by the society. He is bundled by a large number of restrictions that are imposed by the surrounding people. He is warned by an all-time favourite question of the Indian society “Do you have any bad habits??”. This is a completely hilarious question, because the society can rent-out a flat to a married person with the same “bad” habits but says a blunt no to the bachelor. Why this sort of discrimination? Also, bachelors are always asked “whether you have a boyfriend/girlfriend??” while renting the house. Even if he/she has, why is it a matter of concern to the society despite their families knowing about the relationship status of their children. The biggest concern that a bachelor faces is regarding the in-time. Why does the society try to capture his freedom by imposing the restriction of in-timings? He/she is mature enough to know about the value of time and also he is an independent mature soul now. He can himself judge regarding what is right and what is wrong for him. With all the numerous number of restrictions imposed by the society, the bachelor apparently loses his confidence and decides to make a compromise. Societies often blame and complain the bachelors for creating a lot of ruckus and this also sometimes prove to be the rejection criteria for renting a house to any bachelor. The next problem that a bachelor faces is in terms of rent. If all the listed above conditions are dissolved, then it usually happens that the rent is too high and with a fixed monthly budget, they are forced to make ‘sacrifices’ for their living. He tries to look for a house that is budget friendly, without any restrictions and less of daily commutation to the destinations, but meeting all these expectations is impossible for a bachelor.

The main question arises, why are the societies not ready to rent out their houses to the bachelors? Is it because of the bad habits they have? Or is it because, they are committed to a relationship status at quite an early stage in early stage? Whatsoever be the reasons, the societies must remember, bachelors are new to the city and need a house so that they can work effectively sans any conditions.

The bachelors should also ensure that they do also obey and respect the certain conditions offered by the opposite party. It is a mutual trust that has to be built between both- the bachelors and the society. If the bachelors respect the rules, then it makes them a great person and if societies rent out their houses, then they may be on the profit receiving end with the existing renters recommending their flats to some-one who’s looking for the house in this huge city.

Thus, every society must learn- “before saying no, you must better know them”.